written by Pheba Varughese, mother of 2 who homeschools and works occasionally as a NICU nurse.
As a somewhat stay-at-home/ homeschooling mom, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and feel unproductive.
Here’s what I have learned works for me…
Every night before I go to bed, I look over my calendar and make a to-do list for the next day. This list includes my workout, chores, errands, kids activities/school, meal plans, etc. I love checking off boxes, but I give myself lots of grace for things that don’t get done and need to be moved to the next day’s to-do list.
I have been more productive and efficient since starting this as it allows me to prioritize tasks.
Through this, my prayer is that the kids would learn that we do everything as unto the Lord.
(2) Prioritize time with God and time for myself.
I’m learning that I cannot pour from an empty cup.
One way I prioritize is by waking up before the kids to have my quiet time with God through prayer, devotions, and Bible reading. I’ve come to realize that I need to start my day with God (even if it’s sometimes only for a few minutes) in order to be the kind of mom He’s called me to be. If the kids happen to wake up before I’m able to do this, I invite them to sit with me and have their own quiet time with God. I want the kids to know that time with God comes first and that we need to seek God for strength and guidance for the day.
Time for myself includes working out regularly, guarding time for my marriage, and scheduling time to hang with friends. How that looks varies from week to week but I want to model to my children that we give God our first moments every day, that we take care of our bodies, that our marriage is a priority, and that we need Godly friends. I’m learning that I cannot pour from an empty cup.
It can be overwhelming to keep up with everything at the house, in addition to schoolwork, extracurricular activities, and work. Instead of trying to do it all, I am teaching the kids (8 and 5 years old) to do age appropriate chores such as emptying the dishwasher, wiping down counters & door knobs, laundry, and sweeping the floor.
My desire is to teach them that we serve one another in love and we work cheerfully as unto the Lord. We work together so we can play together.
Whether we like it or not, children follow our example. The way I manage my time will show my kids where my priorities are. I’m not a structured person by nature but I’m thankful that God continues to guide me and teach me.